Muse Workshop No. 3

Stop Emotional Eating
November 22, 2010


-Emotional eating means eating for emotion and not for the purpose of satisfying hunger.
-Humans are wired to seek food for comfort. As a baby, the first thing one did was cry and that was for food. Also humans are "hardwired" to eat when they are stressed. 
-People search for food mostly when they feel: (A) Anxiety/Anger, (L) Lonely, (T) Tired or 

(B) Bored.
-Every food is associated with an emotion!

-Pros for emotional eating include: one feels better/satisfaction, helps develop a social connection (because one eats with others), it is an easy and accessible task and it is reliable (chocolate never lets one down).
-Cons for emotional eating: weight gain, one becomes dependent on food, one feels guilty, it does not solve the problem and time is spent trying to undo the effect ( a lot of exercise). 
-The positive results (as listed above) are rather immediate and humans like immediate results. Therefore, one is more likely to turn to food which gives quick comfort, rather then wait and solve the actual emotional problem which will take much longer. 
-67% of people in the US of A are overweight!
-The best way to change a bad habit is to replace it with something else. For example, instead of eating when you are feeling sad, try going for a walk, reading a book, watching a movie, talking to a friend, planting a tree, ANYTHING really :)
-Cope with emotions and do not try to control them or let them control you! Emotions will come back if not coped with. Do not turn to food either because food does not fully get rid of the emotion in the long run.
-It takes 20 minutes for food to inform the brain that one just ate or for one to feel the sensation of being full. So, the longer one takes to enjoy the food, the less one eats and does not overdo it. 
-If one thinks that he or she is hungry, he or she should first stop and think if he or she is emotionally hungry or really hungry. If one is really hungry, then he or she will actually feel a sensation of being hungry. 
-So to help with emotional hunger, some tips are treat physical illnesses and stay healthy, balance eating, avoid mood altering drugs, get exercise, build mastery (find something that you are proud of and can turn to when you need help coping with emotions). 

The Absolutely True Diary of a Part-Time Indian Soundtrack

FRIENDSHIP
1. WHITE STRIPES- WE'RE GOING TO BE FRIENDS
This song goes perfectly with the theme of friendship. Friends play a huge role in Junior's life as they teach him lessons and are sometimes more important to him than his family. Growing up, Junior loses his best friend (a dog) and then also his one and only other best friend Rowdy. But throughout the story though, things turn for the better as Junior befriends many people at Reardan. All these new friends teach him a lesson. For example, Gordy helps him learn how to study and read. Penelope teaches him about love and caring. Through his new friends, Junior learns about a unfamiliar world of white parents and white kids. 
    In the chapter "Halloween" Junior talks to Penelope about their costumes as homeless people. At this part of the story, Penelope and Junior are not YET friends but they do have a little conversation where she smiles at him. 
So, I see this conversation taking place between the two at school. 
(Pg. 81)
I was just going to let her go. But I had to say something memorable, something huge. 
"Hey!" I called after her. 
"What?" she asked. 
"It feels good, doesn't it?"
"What feels good?"
"It feels good to help people, doesn't it?" I asked
"Yes," she said. "Yes, it does."
She smiled.
THEN BOOM, the song comes on, as she is walking away and he has a big, cheesy smile on his face. 
The song also foreshadows the relationship between Junior and Penelope. Later in the novel, after this moment, the two do develop a friendship/relationship. I would even say this moment in a way acts like a catalyst to their future relationship, because her smile allows him to see that their is a chance between them. The next time he sees her, he takes the chance to befriend her once more. 
The song itself is very innocent and playful sounding. It is cute and the first verse goes perfectly with this scene in the book ( the two in homeless costumes talking to one another).

2. QUEEN- YOU'RE MY BEST FRIEND
Going along with the theme of friendship, this song sums up the relationship between Junior and his best buddy Rowdy. Through thick and thin, the two manage to stick together, even with huge fights along the way. His relationship with Rowdy is very vital to him, as he does not give up on it. Junior makes friends at Reardan, but he always manages to go back to Rowdy. So, at the end of the book the two play basketball until dark, which shows that their friendship is back and in tact. 
I imagine a scene of the two playing basketball, while Junior (as an over voice) cites the final passage in the book.
Rowdy and I played one-on-one for hours. We played until dark. We played until the streetlights lit up the court. We played until the bats swooped down at our heads. We played until the moon was huge and golden and perfect in the dark sky. 
       We didn't keep score. (and BAM! the song comes on)
and then camera slowly zooms further and further away from them while the song is playing and credits are being shown. 


HOPE;JOY
3. THE DIVINE COMEDY-TONIGHT WE FLY
There is plenty of "hope" in this book. Junior hopes that by going to Reardan, he has a chance of a bright future compared to the dull one he is destined for if he stays at the school on the Rez. His sister, Mary, also feels hopeful, and joyous, when she leaves to go to Montana and start a new life with her husband. One particular moment in the story that has Junior feeling hopeful, is when his classmates walk out on his teacher after her rude remarks to Junior. 
First all the students drop their books, and leave the classroom. Then, Junior is left there standing alone. He starts laughing realizing that their reason for the protest (Junior) is still left in the classroom. AS HE IS LAUGHING THIS SONG COMES ON. The beginning is instrumental, which is what is playing as he is laughing and says his comeback to his teacher. 
    (Pg. 176)
     "What are you laughing at?" Mrs. Jeremy asked me. 
     "I used to think the world was broken down by tribes," I said. "By black and white. By indian and white. But now I know that isn't true. The world is only broken into two tribes: The people who are assholes and the people who are not."
    (I walked out of the classroom and felt like dancing and singing.
    It all gave me hope. It gave me a little bit of joy.)
As he is walking out of the classroom with a joyous grin and hopeful heart, the first 2 or 3 lines of the first verse play. 
     I thought this happy, pop sounding song which is about joy, and feeling free and flying perfectly sums up this moment in the story. Also, the beginning is a great instrumental sound that slowly builds up to the joyous moment. Junior has a lot of hope in him and that is what keeps him going in the story. His hope is what leads him to happiness at the end. His hope is what mends his relationship with Rowdy. With his life, it seems that the easiest thing to do is give up, but because he has hope, he believes that giving up is not an option. 

Joyous Songs

"We No Speak Americano" by Yolanda Be Cool & DCUP-The reason why this song is so joyous to me is because every time I have to close for work, this song will often times come on on the radio and my coworkers just start dancing to it. This song is just fun, upbeat and weird at the same time. Cant Help but Smiling" by Devendra Banhart-It is incredibly hard to be sad while listening to this song. The music is just so relaxing, makes one feel like he or she is at the beach, under the sun, simply feeling happy. "Suada" by Plavi Orkestra-This is a Bosnian rock song that whenever is played, always has people singing their hearts out. It is by a popular Bosnian rock and roll band from the 80'. The guitar, the beat, it all just screams "woo!" "She's Got You High" by Mumm-ra- Its melody is simple yet sweet. "Free Energy" by Free Energy-An optimistic and alive sound, positive words and an eccentric group of people make "Free Energy" a song that is perfect for happily blasting in the car. 

Assert Yourself Workshop

Took place: October 21, 2010. 12pm - 1pm. 

In this workshop, the difference between being passive, assertive and aggressive was spoken about. Things I learned include:

-Assertive is not a black and white kind of thing. Assertive is the middle ground of aggressiveness and passiveness, and it contains the strength from each side. 

-Being aggressive means not respecting the needs, opinions or feelings of others. Aggressive people do not apologize, or see problems as their fault, ever. They feel others have no rights to ask for things and usually think in terms of "you do not really matter."

-Passive people do not express their needs, opinions or feelings. They apologize for things (even when it is not their fault) and do not respect their own rights. These kind of people feel as if they do not have a right to ask for things they want. When they think, it is in terms of "I do not really matter."

-Assertive respects the needs, opinions and feelings of others. They apologize only when it is their fault, and allow others to take their own responsibility too. They respect both their own rights and those of others. Assertive people have no trouble asking for needs and wants. Also when they think, it is in terms of "I have to respect matters of my own and others."

-Statistics show that females are more passive than males. 

-Some situations do not benefit being assertive, so being passive is not always a "bad" way to act.

-Culture influences one's communication in different domains such as with family, friends, or school. The way one acts at home may be different than at school, due to the amount of comfort he or she feels in a particular environment. 

-Different cultures have different ways of acting. The western culture is more individualistic; therefore, when people of this culture speak or think, it is in a direct manner and often personalized. "What are YOUR feelings?"

-Eastern cultures are object-focused and more indirect. They think in ways like "how might WE resolve this?" These are collectivistic cultures, and do not often think in "I" terms but more as "what can WE do?"

-Because being assertive in some cultures is not as important as in others, communication might be lost or difficult when two individuals from each of these different cultures try to speak to each others. 

wooo, done. :)

Non-muse Event

volleyball game. sjsu vs. university of the pacific

10.19.10

Fever, Chapter 4.

-When the Supremes first auditioned for Berry Gordy, they were told no and that they need more experience. Later on, they were Motown's most popular girl-group.
-Mick Jagger was a misogynist!
-Martha Reeves was at first just a secretary, until one day she filled in for Mary Wells at the studio and that was when her career began.
-"Dancing" was a code word for sex, but also it meant protesting. This was because of all the civil rights demonstrations that were happening around that time.
-The Beatles were enormous fans of girl-groups and covered many songs by them!
-Motown women wore beehives, dinner gloves, and similar sequined dress as their other group members.
-Smokey Robinson wrote songs for both female and male groups. It was interesting how he was able to grasp both opposite sides of emotion so well when it came to writing.
-Motown's first number one song was "Please Mr. Postman" by the Marvelettes!
-The Who were a band which represented the extreme male energy in rock music. They would smash instruments, act aggressively and Keith Moon (drummer) would produced such an intense, loud sound with his drums. Therefore, more men than women were fans of the Who.
-In Britain, music expressed the problems with class discrimination. While in America, music dealt with the issue of race and trying to bring different colors together.

There you go, some entertaining facts from Fever!

Fever 2

~ Girl group lyrics spoke about desire and fantasy fulfillment. The groups were like storytellers, talking to other women and allowing guys to listen in on their conversations about men.
- Guys bought records by girl groups so they could learn more about what women were saying about them and just talking about in general.
~ Women were told to be sexy, but also innocent. Hollywood wanted them to be glamourous but at the same time not greedy with their wants for clothes and jewelry. It was vital to be married, but at the same time it was hard for marriage to not be an economic difficultly. Being a girl seems to be just as tough now as it was then.
- The song "Maybe", by The Chantels, allowed other women to join rock n' roll and was an inspiration for other girl groups.
~Girl groups looked to female songwriters and managers, but were only produced by males. Now a days,  it is the sort of the same way with males mainly acting as producers for all artists.
- Phil Spector was an incredibly successful producer in the 60's. His productions hit the Billboard 27 times and made the Top 40, 17 times. All of this in just 5 years!
~Spector "sang" through his women artists. For an example, he wrote a song about his dead father called "To Know Is to Love Him", which was recorded by the Teddy Bears.

I guess why not do a couple of facts about Tina Turner, from Fever's chapter 3 as well.
~Tina Turner began rock feminism. Her voice was full of passion, but at the same time rage. This all came from the abuse she felt from men, whether it was from her husband or the producers. Her voice was unique from all the other women singers during that time. She was told she had a "male" sounding voice. Even through all the abuse from Ike, she stayed strong and is still currently known as a legend.